African children are not an accessory. by @vohandas
I have never been this angry in a while. I literally can’t believe what I’m seeing. I log on to tumblr and few scrolls down what do I see? This. A post by justgirlywishes , a blog about girly bucket list things, that girl like and/or want to do. Things such as “baking a chocolate cake”, “traveling the world” “Looking cute and hoping he would notice” and my “favorite” “Adopting an African Child.” WHAT? I’m not going to channel all my anger towards them alone because I realize they are not the only people guilty of this. However, I am tired, so tired of people, mostly white celebrities going to Africa and literally picking up a baby and just saying “yup, i want this one” (…it’s that easy If you’re a white American or European and have money) and then parading the child around to the media. “Look at the good deed I have done, look at me, I have gone allllll the way to Africa and saved this baby from disease and famine.”
Now don’t get me wrong, I am not against adoption. However, adopting a child and dehumanizing them because you have the money to do so and all your friends are doing it… is wrong. Do people realize that these children are people also? Do they realize that adopting a child takes alot of responsibility, just as it would to give birth and raise one? The part that makes me angry is the fact they go to developing countries with cameras and press, and exploiting the adoption process for their own sake. If you really felt it in your heart that you wanted to make a difference in a child’s life and wanted to offer them an opportunity at things they might never be able to have due to their unfortunate situation, would you really need the media? To me that raises a lot of questions. These are the same people who hide their own kids behinds doors because they want them to live “normal lives away from the tabloids”, however, the adopted child? Bring them out! take all the photos you need. “___ have adopted a child from ___” “____traveled to rural village and brings back baby ___”
“Between 2003 and 2010, said the report, the number of children adopted from Africa increased three-fold. During that time, 33,434 children were adopted internationally from Africa’s top 12 source countries — the vast majority of these adopted children ended up in the United States.
Celebrities’ adoptions of African children have been glamorized to an extent, oversimplifying the practice and neglecting to address some of its major issues.” (Jacey Fortin)
All I’m saying is, please. Do not adopt a child because it’s “cool” to do so. Do not adopt an African baby or an Asian baby because they are -cheaper- to adopt. These are all wrong reasons and It is not fair at all to the child; I would hope when it comes to the adoption process, people took into consideration, the child as a person and not as anything less.
I open the table for a discussion for anyone who would like to voice their opinion on this..
In almost every state in the US it costs less to adopt a child out of foster care from within your home state than it does to travel abroad many times in order to adopt internationally. The up front costs vary, but many states will reimburse the family once the adoption has been finalized. Many states provide ongoing financial & other support systems for the family & the child following in-state foster care adoptions, as well. And adopting a child locally means that in some cases you have a chance to keep them connected to members of their biological family, which can be healthy for their growth & development, depending on their individual circumstances.
I’m a big advocate for adoption, and don’t see an issue with adopting internationally or interracially in general, but when there are literally hundreds of children who desperately need homes & families in our own neighborhoods (262 in my home state as of today, multiplied by 50 states = roughly 13,000 children in the US right now who are wards of the state, waiting to be adopted), the motivation for specifically going out & bringing home an international child as a first-resort comes into question. Everyone who dreams of adopting internationally should seriously evaluate why it’s important to them.
The back story of Suzanne (“crazy eyes”) on Season 2 of oitnb is a perfect example of what happens when a white family views an adoption as “saving a little black girl” to prove their righteousness instead of a adding a member to their family. Children are very delicate little people, not badges of honor.